Here are two very common factors for people getting involved in sexual bondage issues.  1) a father wound,  2) a family of origin that practiced a rules based Christianity. The rigid, fundamental style without the relationship can be toxic for fueling pornography, sexual bondage behavior.

Do you connect with one or both of the above factors?  Are you struggling with sexual issues?  There is help and hope!  The first thing you must ask yourself , “Am I participating in any form of Denial”.   The structures of denial can be very hard-wired.    What feeds the denial is the secret.  Bondage and addiction flow in secrecy.  I understand why we protect through secrecy.  It is the fear of being hurt again.

There are evangelical families that live in a fear-based world.  The parents parent out of fear.  The children learn to live with fear.   If we throw in a rules connection to God and living, the fear only gets worse.  Instead of desiring “true intimacy”, these kinds of family units default to “false intimacy”.   In…to…me…you…CANNOT…..see!    A person does not get rejected viewing an air-brushed image.  However, the trade off can be the difference between life and death. If you are connecting with these thoughts, please contact us.  We will show you grace and a way-out!